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San Francisco is looking for help with outreach to the community

Phil — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 02:04:37 GMT

VOLUNTEER AND HAVE SOME FUN!!

The summer street fair season is just around the corner!

The San Francisco Dept. of Public Health – STD Prevention and Control
Section is once again forming its local volunteer team to help conduct
outreach and recruit people for STD screening at the summer street fairs
(Dore Alley, Folsom Street Fair, Castro Street Fair).

To be a part of the team you will need to attend a brief sexual health
training and be willing to talk about sex, health and STD screening.

Interested?

For more information send an email to Brandon.Ivory@sfdph.org

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Negotiation with Integrity

teamnoir — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 16:56:39 GMT

Would you like more confidence in your play? More variety? To play more? Would you like to learn how to ask for what you want? To know when to decline? Or to feel safer overall in your play?

Negotiation skills can help with all of these things as well as many other areas of life. Unfortunately many people think that negotiation is just about tricks for manipulating or controlling other people. Come spend an evening developing your sense of integrity and learning more effective ways of communicating what you want sincerely and authentically.

This workshop will consist of some discussion with plenty of exercises, support, and encouragement suitable for anyone of any play or skill level.

7:30 p.m., Thursday, March 27th
Stormy Leather, 1158 Howard St., San Francisco

Advance purchase tickets are $20 - purchase them at http://stormyleather.com, in the retail store, or by calling 800-486-9650 or 415-626-1672.
Tickets will be $25 after 7pm on the night before the event, so visit the website and get yours now!

Additionally, those who arrive early to shop will receive 20% off purchases made prior to the start of the class - don't miss out!

Please feel free to e-mail Kirsten@stormyleather.com with any questions. Discount applies to all non-clearance items and cannot be combined with any other offer.

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Club EROS releases new back pocket safe sex/health guide for gay men

nerdpunkcub — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 23:19:05 GMT

EROS Releases New Gay Sex Resource at Annual Member Appreciation Day

SAN FRANCISCO – The venerable and popular safe sex club, EROS at 2051 Market Street in San Francisco, is celebrating their 15th Anniversary by rolling out a new back pocket guide to gay sexual health. The postcard size resource was developed during the summer, utilizing an intern from Antioch College who is a graduate of the SF Sex Information training.

In recent years, EROS has relied upon educational and health marketing from community partners, such as STOP AIDS Project, SF Department of Public Health, and the SF AIDS Foundation. “We’ll continue to use those resources,” said Ken Rowe, Director of Community Relations and Education at EROS, “but after 15 years, we’ve heard some specific questions come up over and over again, and we wanted to address them.”

Owing a lot to previous grass roots efforts such as those from the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgences, STOP AIDS Project, and St. James Infirmary this new resource brings the focus of self care back to basics.

The card is entitled “A Safer Sex Guide for Gay Men” and specifically covers “Be Good to Your Body”, “Know Your Boundaries”, “Get Tested and Communicate”, “Protect Yourself and Play Safe” and specifically covers Safe Sex when visiting a sex club.

Besides being distributed to everyone coming in on their Thanksgiving Day Members Appreciation Day, the card will be distributed at EROS, throughout the community and on a new section of the www.erossf.com website.

EROS Factoid
Since January 2007, over 1000 copies of the 8 page booklet “Safer Sex for Transguys” have been distributed by Trannywood Pictures, a project of EROS – the Center for Safe Sex which can be viewed at www.trannywoodpictures.com.

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ideas for quick cleanup between partners in Mwhatever group sex

bokomaru — Tue, 03 Apr 2007 23:05:20 GMT

Switching condoms between partners for intercourse just doesn't seem like enough to me.
What is a quick and good way of cleaning up between partners? One that doesn't entail running to the bathroom to wash with soap or nasty stinky chemical wipes?

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Safe Sex for Trans Guys...

nerdpunkcub — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 16:28:51 GMT

Is on our website www.trannywoodpictures.com

We include a printed version with our first dvd...and will have reprints available soon.

Oh, we've created a trannywood tribe too.

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Laura Bush First job-Dildo Commercial-Funny as shit!

Tue, 23 May 2006 23:37:34 GMT

Look at this-I nearly passed out because I couldn't breathe. Sprite came out my nose!

http://falsepretender.blogspot.com/2006/05/new-secret-video-laura-bushs-first.html
Many other funny videos (Get Your Jesus Off My Penis...) and twisted stories on the main page:
http://falsepretender.blogspot.com

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what do folks here think about harm reduction?

stormaldo — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 23:29:55 GMT

and what are some of the ways you engage in harm reduction as a method of safer sex.

ie, -getting checked regurlary for std's such as HIV, HPV, Hepatitis, gonorrhea, etc.
-being fluid bonded with one partner
-only using barriers for oral sex when you show symptoms of any sort of outbreak (knowing that that isn't a sure fire way of 'safety'.)
-communication
-gloves only when you have cuts or hangnails
-etc.

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Risk of cunnilingus

massage — Fri, 09 Jun 2006 19:07:28 GMT

Risk doing cunnilingus
There is something about pleasing a woman with your tongue, kissing her most intimate parts. While it is considered relatively safe, I was wondering whether there is any information in regard what is the risk of having or performing cunnilingus?

Kissing a sheet of plastic is just not the same than, it is tasting a gorgeous flower.

Anyway I am not want to get carried away too much.
I read through some of the sex-health webpages like http://www.sexuality.org/concise.html
But I am still not yet satisfied with the answers.

Any thoughts ?
anyone having some more information?

Ps. big turn off: if a woman first wipes over your mouth after she came.

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Safe Farting-Toot-Tone--Lifesaving New Product (OK, its a joke video)

Sat, 27 May 2006 02:10:41 GMT

Safe Farting-Toot-Tone--Lifesaving New Product
This new technology prevents those embarrassing moments where your insides just have to get out. Toot-Tone is sweeping the globe and will be the next Kleenex of its product generation. Just stick it up your butt and go your merry way!

Warning, it may still stink but they're working on that too!

http://falsepretender.blogspot.com

More really funny shit on there now!

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help boyfriend not interested in sex

cathy — Sun, 19 Feb 2006 07:11:38 GMT

i need help my boyfriend of 8 months never wants to have sex seems like he nver is horney he is 27 & i am 37 he smokes alot of pot & passes out alot well i am leaving town for a week tommorrow & we started having sex & he could not get it up he says it is not me but i am not so sure someone help me please

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Bald Mountain Retreat, — Tue, 09 May 2006 21:22:57 GMT

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masturbate for peace

SiAN — Wed, 07 Dec 2005 03:55:54 GMT

the safest sex that there is!
check out <www.masturbateforpeace.com>

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Tight Vagina

Phil Foquette — Tue, 18 Oct 2005 01:20:26 GMT

Though my girlfriend claims to not be a virgin, I can not penetrate her with my finger much less my penis. What could the problem be?
I am quite serious about this.
I do have some sexual experience.
Thanks!

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New into the dating scene and new relationships after a long marriage.

Trina — Tue, 04 Apr 2006 17:48:59 GMT

Okay this is probably a stupid question, but as far as sex goes, I am worried about what the guy thinks. I met someone back in August of last year. It was obvious he noticed me and I noticed him, but I could not give him the time of day because I had recently broken up with my boyfriend. This guy was always in the back of my mind and then one night unexpectedly we ran into each other. This was 3 months later. We ended up sitting together and talking and before the night was over we ended up having sex. He called me 2 days later and we kept in touch. But since then he has had a job change and has moved several hours away. This guy is a close friend of my cousin who introduced us. His job is about 2 hours away from where my cousin lives and he told me the next time I go down there to let him know. We have had several opportunities to see each other and then when he says that he really wants to see me, for some reason he can't. He says to stay in touch and when one of us calls the other we may talk for an hour. I guess my question is, is it possible when you have sex that way and you keep in touch that there may be somethingthere and you can still have a relationship later. My cousin told me that he is a different kind of guy. He confuses me with the way he acts. I was told that he has been burned a few times and maybe afraid to get close. I have been very careful not to come across needy or desperate. Just being a friend. We agreed when he got his job lined out that we would hang out sometimes. We could always meet in the middle. About the time I give up on him he will call me or text me. I am confused about what he is thinking. Help

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volunteer for STD Training in San Francisco

Phil — Thu, 23 Feb 2006 00:48:21 GMT

Here is a post from the SF Dept. of Health, STD outreach program

Do some good in your community by helping

Thanks

Phil

..........................................................................................................................................

We are looking for folks who want to talk about sex, while also talking
about preventing Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Our teams operate in the
bars, parks, sex clubs, street fairs and other community events.

We will provide all the training you need to assist in STD prevention,
community screenings working alongside our teams.

The time commitment is minimal, between 4 - 8 hours per month. It requires
no special skills or knowledge except your interest and
time.

The next training is scheduled in March.

For more information or an application, please contact:

Frank.Strona@sfdph.org
Special Projects Coordinator
STD Prevention & Control Services
1360 Mission Street, #401
San Francisco, CA 94103
Office 415-355-2024
Mobile 415-305-9613
Fax: (415) 554-9636

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How too's of safer sex with Modified partners

gigi-d — Sun, 19 Feb 2006 19:44:48 GMT

I have been wondering this for a while...
I run in the fetish circle where body modification is very common including genital modification.
In fact I am peirced. My hood.. wich does not present much of an issue it doers not interfer with condoms.
However what about the guys?
I recently saw a guy with one through the head (not a PA) a jacobs ladder 15 implants and another under the scrotum.....thats ALOT of metal in one cock.
He says he gets laid alot because women want to excperience a modified man... and I can see that.
BUT can a modified man use condoms? do they break tear? is it safe? aand all those pericings don't they make you more suseptable to STD's since it would be east to have little breaks in the skin around the implants and peircings?
any one have info on this?

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oral sex

nicole — Tue, 14 Feb 2006 09:38:48 GMT

My boyfriend would be happy if I gave him head (not that he told me that I just know),
but I'm afraid I would be good at it or he wont like it. I really want to do it but when I try
to go do it I get really nervous I want him to enjoy it what should I do?

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n00b

Thomas — Wed, 08 Feb 2006 04:07:33 GMT

hello im a new and i had sex only one time and i would like to know how i can make it more pleasurable for the female than what i have done. im not sure how to explain things much but i am strieght for answers :) if you have a question for me ill answer strieght up no sidetracks (questions about me)

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Healthy Valentine From The CDC

Ms. Fill in the Blank — Sat, 11 Feb 2006 06:42:32 GMT

Protect yourself.
Love is all around, and so are sexually transmitted diseases. The only 100% sure way to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unintended pregnancy is by not having sex. If you choose to have sex, using latex condoms and having a monogamous, uninfected partner may help decrease your risk.

HIV and AIDS: Questions and Answers
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/pubs/faqs.htm
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
http://www.cdc.gov/nchstp/dstd/disease_info.htm
Viral Hepatitis: Hepatitis B and C
http://www.cdc.gov/ncidod/diseases/hepatitis/

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Questions raised about SF's gonorrhea protocol

Ms. Fill in the Blank — Sat, 11 Feb 2006 06:20:50 GMT

I thought I would post this.
Its kinda long, so I will just put the webpage .

http://www.ebar.com/news/article.php?sec=news&article=568

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i need advice on a question about my husband

ellissa — Tue, 11 Oct 2005 16:31:30 GMT

dear tribe i have the best husband in the world but having trouble find his penis when he non excited . he alsoi have trouble geeting it to get erected and want to ride him with out nedication can you suggest how to make his dick hard also he like to have foreplay but i am trying to spice up our nights
elissa

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the other "lasting" issue

Shannon — Sun, 04 Sep 2005 19:36:23 GMT

My boyfriend and I have had sex five or six times in our relationship so far. It is good, except we have one major problem. He never cums. I will orgasm after 30 or so minutes, but he never does. We go for about 1 1/2 to 2 hours, and nothing ever happens. I usually just end up lying and saying I am sore, so we can stop. It gets old, and the mood is not there after a while. I end up just going through the motions until I cannot take it anymore. What can we do to ensure that he has a great experience like I do?

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Question

Desarae — Tue, 27 Dec 2005 00:06:24 GMT

Hey there folks. If anyone could help me out with an issue I'm having, I'd really appreciate it.

To be blunt, I love giving my boyfriend blow jobs, but I really want to learn more about deep throating. I've gotten to where I can pretty much fit it all (and it's a lot), but not comfortably for any longer than a few seconds. I've tried looking up things on the internet but nothing's been especially helpful. If anyone has any tips on how to comfortably deep throat, please let me know! Thanks in advance.

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I give it but don't get it

kathleen — Sat, 10 Dec 2005 03:02:00 GMT

I can't believe I'm asking this but I need to know if there are very many guys out there that won't give oral sex to their partner. I've been with my boyfriend for over 9 months and he has only given it to me once. I satisify him orally almost every time we have sex. I am an extremely clean person so I know odor isn't the problem. I know I should just ask him to pleasure me that way but I'm not sure how to word it. I honestly can't imagine never having a warm mouth on me again. Damn I miss it.

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condom slippage

sobey — Mon, 11 Apr 2005 21:41:07 GMT

Having to fish for condoms when they slip off during sex sucks. It also makes me check often to make sure it hasn't fallen off, especially when i notice extra sensation that's too good to be true. Do they need to be reinvented or what?

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the last days of Tribe.net

unsubscribed_user — Thu, 08 Dec 2005 12:55:40 GMT

Does everyone here realize that Tribe as we know it will be 'going away' in just a few days? 'Safer Sex' is sexually explicit in nature and as such will be banned/removed after December 20th. This along with every other tribe that has any offensive/sexually-explicit/pornographic/obscene content (images or ideas).

It's over folks.

Thanks for all the fun and challenges and humor and just great community.

It was great while it lasted.

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Neem and birth control

sobey — Wed, 23 Feb 2005 15:35:28 GMT

http://www.sisterzeus.com/neem.html

Anyone have any experience or knowledge supporting these claims?

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How safe is oral sex?

Thu, 22 Apr 2004 20:15:22 GMT

I am going to deflower this tribe with a controversial subject. Oral sex without a condom. This has been long though to be relatively unsafe and I am not going to include here herpes, syphilis etc but just focus on HIV forthe moment.
I realize that many people have been sucking cock without a condom for years now and have feared for their safety but just couldn't bring themselves to wrap it for oral. Well there seems to be some good news out. A recent study done by UCSF in San Francisco has shown this to be relatively low risk. here is link, there are man out there if you google it. Let the controversy begin!
http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2002-11/uoc--usf112002.php

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Why Empowered Women Choose Not To Circumcise

BradT — Sun, 09 Oct 2005 17:14:25 GMT

Below is the link to an excellent article.

Why Empowered Women Choose Not To Circumcise
by Aubrey Taylor

http://wnc-woman.com/0405circumcise.html

Here is the actual article.

why empowered women choose not to circumcise
by aubrey taylor

Circumcision? What on earth does circumcision have to do with being an empowered woman?

The answer isn’t obvious. The two issues seem worlds apart, one having to do with an infant’s foreskin, and the other: you. Some of us seeking personal strength and empowerment in our lives may never have children, some already have, but the fact is that knowing the truth is empowering for any woman, or any man. How many times have I heard something similar to “If I had known, I never would have let them do it.” This statement is often times made, unfortunately, by the mothers of boys who have had complications, which sometimes need additional surgery to correct. Having the truth about circumcision can only lead to an empowered decision, should the occasion arise, or having an empowered position in your community. However, knowing why an empowered woman would choose not to circumcise goes beyond simple education, and into our strengths and weaknesses; and to see it we must examine also why nowadays we circumcise in the first place, even in the face of the truth.

So let’s start with the truth. Circumcision is unnecessary. You may be thinking “But they’ve been doing it for so long, and I’ve always heard that it’s cleaner.” The medical documents regarding circumcision in the United States date back to the late 1800’s and quote well-respected doctors saying that circumcision would, among many things, end masturbation and even cure insanity.

The hygiene issue wasn’t brought up until after those ideas were realized as false, or as a sort of afterthought. No one had, at that time, ever studied the foreskin, and claiming that it’s cleaner not to have it, is like claiming that it’s cleaner to remove your fingernails so that dirt cannot collect under them. As far as I know, fingers come into more contact with contaminants than the penis.

Since then, there have been many other excuses that take turns defending circumcision, and even today medical professionals are still debating the supposed benefits that include an implication of preventing STDs and penile cancer. Yet, the American Academy of Pediatrics has stated since the 1970’s that there is “no valid medical indication for circumcision”

Still others hold to the old assumed facts. In the face of professionals making opposite claims one can either study everything there is to be studied, or resort to common sense: If 85% of the world has natural genitals, and they don’t end up needing modification, perhaps what’s natural is safe. After all, women have many more folds of skin “down there” and we seem to do OK. Even in the face of an infection or other problems, the solution is NEVER amputation. There isn’t after all, a single body part that is free from an occasional problem. We don’t cut off our toes to prevent getting an ingrown toenail!

Circumcision is also extremely painful and inflicts damage; that’s what they WON’T tell you. The foreskin in infancy is attached to the head of the penis with a membrane called synechia that is similar to the membrane attaching your fingernail to your finger. The foreskin must therefore be torn from the head of the penis before it can be amputated. This would be like shoving a blunt metal probe under your fingernail.

The complications of circumcision arise from the risk of taking too much skin or accidentally cutting off other structures like shaft tissue or the glans (penis head), there’s a risk of infection and hemorrhage, as well as issues arising after the circumcision like skin bridges and chordee (bent penis). There have been many unfortunate instances where the infant suffers a loss of the entire penis or even death.

Though it isn’t well known, the foreskin is an essential part of the penis. The foreskin of an infant protects the glans from abrasion, and contains a tight ring of tissue at the end that keeps fecal matter and other debris from coming in contact with the urethral opening. Later in life, after the glans and foreskin separate, the gliding motion of the foreskin aids in smooth sexual intercourse. The average foreskin is also innervated with 10 to 20 thousand sexually responsive nerve endings.

Finally, we must consider the moral implications of removing a part of someone’s genitals by force. Whose body is it? Who should decide? Who has the right to remove a part of your genitals without asking? No one? Well, how nice for you. In the United States, female minors are protected from any kind of genital cutting by federal law, regardless of race or religion. According to the 14th amendment, everyone deserves equal protection under the law regardless of race, religion or SEX.

Most women in the United States have no experience with an intact penis. There is an underlying belief that it’s ‘gross’ or ‘dirty’. We generally don’t know that it has a function, and are told that circumcision is a good thing. Even as knowledge that circumcision isn’t medically necessary spreads and becomes more commonplace, we are still circumcising. Why? As a woman it is our instinct and our conscious desire to protect our children from any harm. Aside from our ignorance about the subject, what could be so strong that it is able to override this natural tendency? The reasons are the things that hold us down in other situations: the pressure to socially conform, avoiding conflict by allowing denial, and the inability to assert ourselves.

The need to be “normal” is a natural human instinct. That’s why teasing and ostracism are so effective. No one wants to feel like they’ve stepped over the boundaries of taboo. For many women, being seen as different is an unacceptable risk and she will conform to the perceived ‘norm’ to avoid it. Society used to punish those who were different with very severe consequences including death. Living in a more sophisticated and civilized society we no longer face anything as extreme as physical harm for stepping out of the norm, but the weight of social expectation is still too much for some women to handle. “That’s not the American way”, “He’ll be the only boy on the block”, “My parents won’t agree” or “I don’t want to be different” are things that she may worry about. It takes a confident and empowered woman to let go of any concerns about what others will think, or the desire to be like everyone else, in favor of doing what’s right. In fact, in these changing times the rate of circumcision is as low as 30% on the west coast, and possibly only 60% nationwide and dropping. Worrying about being different is becoming less of an issue for women and young boys. Not to mention that most of the world does not routinely circumcise male infants. Boys are more likely to face teasing from peers about things that are obvious at first sight, like clothes, or weight, and we accept this as a normal part of growing up.
A good way to avoid thinking about an uncomfortable topic, or having to make a tough decision is to simply ignore it, or believe something that allows you to dismiss it. This is generally something common with people who are stuck in a negative situation that cannot be changed, so that they don’t have to feel bad. Women who have already had their son circumcised would have to admit they were wrong if they accepted that circumcision is damaging or unnecessary. This plays a large role in circumcisions’ perpetuation. We don’t want to admit that we could have hurt our children, so we may even take it as far, in our subconscious defense, as insisting that it’s necessary and that it continue to prove we were right.

For those with the decision still in front of them, it may be easier to simply believe what we’ve always heard, and skip the argument altogether. Many simply don’t want to know the truth, because it would complicate their situation. Accepting myth at face value and denying yourself knowledge is like locking your own chains. It is allowing someone else to make your decisions for you. Being empowered means having the strength and the courage to stand against oppression, even if it comes from inside your own self. Refusing to deny is a difficult quality to obtain, because the one you’re fighting is yourself.

When a baby boy is born, or sometime before, a woman is faced with the question “will the baby be circumcised?” She must then deal with many pressures. If the baby’s father was circumcised, he may want the same for the child. Because it is an issue concerning the penis, a woman may feel that the decision isn’t hers to make, and even though she may not want to allow it, she will defer to the father. Perhaps the doctor has said that it is necessary. In the United States we trust that our doctors know all and are infallible. It may seem rude or insulting to go against what her doctor has suggested. Who supposes to know more than a doctor?

Even a woman’s faith may be questioned if circumcision is perceived as a religious necessity. She doesn’t want to appear as though she is going against her religion. All of these pressures may make a woman feel as though it’s not her place to interfere with the issue of circumcision, and she finds it difficult to assert herself feeling less than empowered. However, a mothers’ first job is to protect, because infants cannot speak for themselves, so circumcision most certainly is her business. Taking a stand against your mate, doctor, or religious peers is without a doubt a challenge. Again it takes a woman with strength and courage to overcome such situations.

An empowered woman is educated, refuses to believe myth, is strong, moral, and she stands up for herself and the defenseless; it takes all of these things to say no to circumcision. For those empowered women who aren’t faced with making this particular decision, they will have the same qualities: refuse to continue to be a catalyst for the perpetuation of a harmful practice against the defenseless.

References & further information:

John Harvey Kellog, Treatment for Self-Abuse and Its Effects, Plain Facts for Old and Young, Burlington, Iowa: P. Segner & Co. 1888, p. 295

W.G.Steele, MD. Importance of Circumcision. Medical World,Vol. 20 (1902): pp.518-519.

American Academy of Pediatrics, Committee on Fetus and Newborn. Standards and Recommendation for Hospital Care of Newborn Infants. 5th ed. Evanston, IL: American Academy of Pediatrics, 1971:110.

For the AAPs’ most recent circumcision policy statement, visit aap.org
Deibert GA. The separation of the prepuce in the human penis. Anat Rec 1933;57:387-399

For a comprehensive list of articles documenting circumcision risks and damage, visit cirp.org/library/complications
Doctors Re-examine Circumcision by Thomas J. Ritter, M.D. and George C. Denniston, M.D. 2002

Cold, C, Taylor, J, “The Prepuce,” BJU International 83, Suppl. 1, (1999): 34-44.

Sex as Nature Intended It by Kristen O’Hara with Jeffrey O’Hara. 2001

See also:
• jewishcircumcision.org
• acts15.org
• quran.org
• circumcisionquotes.com

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Pics

Wed, 12 Oct 2005 14:26:45 GMT

The long awaited "glamour pics" of me are posted.
(as per requested) hehe

Rapture

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Newbie to the tribe...(and to tribe.net)

Tue, 11 Oct 2005 14:30:50 GMT

....but not a newbie to other things.

Greetings.

Rapture

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Tits, Hips and Lips, a Monthly Newsletter on Health and Sexuality

sobey — Tue, 04 Oct 2005 01:53:00 GMT

TITS HIPS AND LIPS

A monthly newsletter on the subjects of health and sexuality

This moths topic -WRAP IT AND SUCK IT

Hey folks!

It's not too often I get to write about a *first time*, but I did something for the first time the other day that seems worthy of telling.

Backing up a bit, I want to tell you bout a few things first.

I got a cold sore. No big deal. I actually also recently thought I might have genital herpes, but it turned out to just be razor rash on my coochie. I know, sad, but anyway, it was a good idea to go to the clinic and have all the other STD tests and pap smear stuff done. And now that I know I'm not contagious, my pussy is feeling really free and happy.

I went to the clinic in the gay and lesbian centre. I like it there. The nurses are always really nice. I hadn't been in like 5 years. Paul was my dead gorgeous totally gay buff male nurse. It was really fun. I saw my cervix for the first time in the mirror. Fucking cool to see where babies come from. Anyway, so that was all good. Tests came back all neg. but a few days later I get a cold sore on my face.

So I'm making out with this guy (no kissing on the lips) and after a while I want to suck his dick. We decide put a condom on it.

First time!

Never sucked it with one of those before but it was REALLY GOOD!

It was a high quality condom, so I think that made a big difference. There's a Japanese company called "kimono" that makes excellent condoms. Actually all the Japanese condoms I've used I really like. They are really thin, but strong. Super clear see-through, and just lightly lubed. They usually fit kind of snug on most guys. (Oh, and if your sitting there thinking "No, way, you I can't feel anything through those things, a drop of lube on the inside of the condom will increase the sensitivity A LOT.)

Anyway, it was definitely not the same, but I wouldn't say not as good.

I really appreciated the safety of it. I didn't have to worry about my cold sore, and not only that, but whatever else we could potentially have. It felt good that his juices and mine were getting kept separate. It was just right for where this boy and me were at.

It felt good to have that one-step-down... I mean of course fully tasting your lover and sharing in those juices is great, but sometimes I'm not really ready for all that intermingling... So yeah. I think I'm going to start carrying them around for such occasions.

Tonight for instance, I was in a van with my girlfriend, her new husband, and our male friend. My girlfriend suddenly gets the urge to suck her husband's cock, and me and the other guy are just sort of watching. Then he kind of starts mentioning that it had been a while since he'd gotten head... and I was like "um no thanks, cold sore".

Even if I didn't have a cold sore, I wasn't feeling like sucking his dick. BUT if I had a condom, I probably would have felt like it. (Come to think of it, I could have cut it open and gotten some loving from him!)

I like oral sex. It's fun, but it would have been too much to suck it naked, with the taste/smell and everything. Sometimes people offer it to me and I kind of get the "no " feeling from the thought of their spit on me. But one layer between us would have been just right.

Anyway he ended up getting some in the end, but that's a different story...

There was a first time there too! I felt really honored to witness it. Haha I suggested we say grace!

Also, there have been a lot of explorations in polyamoury amongst my coupled friends lately, and I see the use of condoms in this way a great tool for adjusting the level of intimacy that would make it comfortable for all people involved. For example. A woman might feel uneasy if her boyfriend got a blowjob from another girl, but if he was wearing a condom, she may feel differently about it.

So, ladies and gentlemen, if you're like my friends and I and like the idea of getting some oral pleasure, keep a condom in your pocket, cuz for me, it would have been just the thing that would have made it happen.

I wish I had tried it sooner! Spread the word. SAFE IS HOT!

Nighty night,

your grrrl,

Miz Noko.

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help! post bj paranoia...

Mel — Mon, 10 Jan 2005 17:53:03 GMT

okay

i admit it

my very part time european boyfriend was in town for 2 weeks recently

i gave him almost daily blow jobs,

none of them were protected

he's had many many other partners in the last few years

he seems to be in the habit of using condoms

& we used condoms for sex every time

however - and i really hate to say this -

during the very last bj

right before his flight home

i noticed, gulp, running around the very bottom rim of the glans of his penis...little white bumps - very uniform (like taste buds or something) & strictly localized in that one area

it was completely my own stupidity for not just asking him then & there, but i admit i was stunned & figured i'd been doing it for 2 weeks already, what did one last time matter at that point - & i didn't want to ruin the moment... :(

anyway - could those very uniform, strictly localized bumps *possibly* be a natural feature of his penis - or am i in for some seriously nasty hardcore outbreak???

!!!

this is scary, guys - any advice anyone has as to what those bumps might be, what i'm in for, how long until i should expect an outbreak, what tests or precautions i should take in the meantime - would be much appreciated!!!

!!!

thanks so much in advance!

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Safer sex with HPV+ partner?

alaskaroy — Sat, 11 Jun 2005 06:03:48 GMT

Hey,
I have a friend who was diagnosed with HPV and had cryo or cauterization on her cervix for it.

I've been looking online to find more about what safe(r) sex practices would _be_ with an HPV+ woman. It seems that condoms aren't enough (since the virus can spread from the skin-to-skin contact beyond the condom).

So what would be "protected" sex in this case, penis to ass or vag? A dental dam with a hole cut in it, my dick wrapped in a condom and placed through the hole? (Kind of a fun/ny image, eh?)

And what about this: Could my friend infect her mouth with HPV if she's ever licked her fingers while masturbating? And if that is so, if I seriously kiss her, then at some later time give unprotected cunnilingus to another woman, can I thus be spreading HPV from the first woman to the second?

Enquiring minds want to know!

TIA. Roy

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Sexual Experiences and Emotion in Women Results

Tera — Wed, 15 Jun 2005 05:34:22 GMT

I recruited research participants from this chat/discussion group several months ago for a study on Sexual Experiences and Emotion in Women. I want to thank the women who took part in this research. The study is now complete. If you have further questions or comments you may contact me at skycladgrrl@yahoo.com.
Thank You
Tera Beaber

Here is a summary of the study’s goals and results:

Goals and Results of the Study of Sexual Experiences and Emotion in Women:
The goal of this research was to study the relationship between sexual functioning and anxiety in two groups: lesbians and heterosexual women. One interest was in investigating whether there are differences in anxiety and sexual functioning between heterosexual women and lesbians. Additionally, based on prior results, I hypothesized that anxiety is negatively correlated with sexual functioning among both heterosexual women and lesbians.
Participants were 42 women in lesbian relationships and 78 women in heterosexual relationships recruited through announcements posted on internet sites. Women over the age of 18 who were in a monogamous romantic relationship for at least 6 months were eligible to participate. The average age for lesbians was 30.05 years and the average age for heterosexuals was 28.77 years. The majority of participants were Caucasian, (76.2% of lesbians and 78.2% of heterosexuals), with smaller proportions of American Americans, Asian Americans/Pacific Islanders, and Hispanics. The average length of the current relationship was 40.13 months for lesbians and 38.91 months for heterosexuals.
One of the questionnaires used in this research measured anxiety. I found that lesbians and heterosexuals reported similar levels of anxiety. Another questionnaire that I used asked for reports of sexual functioning. I found that lesbian participants reported higher levels of arousal and orgasm than heterosexual participants, but that the groups did not differ in reports of desire, lubrication, satisfaction, pain, or overall sexual functioning. Additionally, I found that the various aspects of sexual functioning correlate with one another differently for lesbians and for heterosexuals. When I analyzed the relationship between anxiety and sexual functioning, I found different results in the lesbian and heterosexual groups. Among lesbian women, anxiety was not related to any aspect of sexual functioning. However, among heterosexual participants higher anxiety was associated with higher reports of pain and lower reports of orgasm, lubrication, and overall sexual functioning. In other words, the results suggest that anxiety is negatively related to sexual functioning among heterosexuals, but that it is unrelated to sexual functioning among lesbians. Again, I want to express my thanks to the women who participated in my research. My findings were intriguing, and I am looking forward to conducting more extensive research on this topic in the future.

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San Diego: AFRICAN-AMERICAN, HETEROSEXUAL YOUNG ADULTS WITH HIV/AIDS WANTED FOR FOX6 DOCUMENTARY

jessafire — Thu, 12 May 2005 23:42:49 GMT

HETEROSEXUAL AFRICAN-AMERICAN YOUTH
WITH HIV/AIDS WANTED FOR FOX6 DOCUMENTARY

FOX6/UPN13 is looking for heterosexual African-American young adults to be featured in our Life Lessons documentary on HIV/AIDS.

We are specifically seeking the following African-American heterosexual teenage and young adults:

¨One African-American male and one female who are HIV positive or have AIDS and contracted the disease through heterosexual sexual activity wanted for our documentary, discussing their experiences with the disease and the stigma associated with it.

¨ An African American heterosexual youth who has had a “scare,” where you thought you might have a HIV/AIDS, but it turned out you didn’t

¨ An African-American heterosexual youth who has given a HIV/AIDS to a partner through sexual activity

¨ An African-American heterosexual youth who has found out that a current or former sexual partner has HIV/AIDS

¨ An African-American heterosexual youth who has had sex while under the influence of alcohol or drugs, and then when sober was scared that the person you slept with might have given you HIV/AIDS

¨ An African-American heterosexual youth who has felt pressured into having sexual interactions without protection

¨An African-American youth group leader who relates well to youth who understands the importance of education of HIV/AIDS in their churches

OTHERS (to demonstrate the indiscrimination of the HIV/AIDS disease and debunk fallacies as to who can be infected):

¨ A homosexual Caucasian man with HIV/AIDS
¨ A clean-cut Caucasian woman with HIV/AIDS

If interested in participating in this important project that could change lives, please contact:

Jessica Hurley, Producer (Documentary Specials,) 858-650-6075 / jessicah@fox6.com

Jessica Hurley
Producer/Writer/On-Air Talent
Local Programming & Specials
Bay City TV (Fox6 & UPN13 Affiliates)
Phone: 858-650-6075
jessicah@fox6.com

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Oral Sex Poll Revision 1

El — Thu, 29 Apr 2004 21:22:10 GMT

OK I should have proof read the Revision 0. I hope this version is better.

Ok here is a poll for you. Answer only those questions that you want to. No explanations or justifications are required nor expected. There is no right or wrong answer. Simple answers such as "1.A, 2.A," etc. are easier for other to read. Thank you for participating in this poll:

1. When performing oral sex (mouth to genital) on a woman I:

A. Never perform oral sex on a woman.
B. Always use protection (dental dam, plastic wrap, etc.
C. Some times use protection
D. Rarely if ever use protection.

2. When performing oral sex (mouth to genital) on a man I:

A. Never perform oral sex on a man.
B. Always use protection (condom)
C. Some times use protection
D. Rarely if ever use protection.

3. I identify as a woman and when receiving oral sex(mouth to genital) from a man I:

A. Never receive oral sex from a man.
B. Always use protection (dental dam, plastic wrap, etc.
C. Some times use protection
D. Rarely if ever use protection.

4. I identify as a woman and when receiving oral sex(mouth to genital) from a woman I:

A. Never receive oral sex from a woman.
B. Always use protection (dental dam, plastic wrap, etc.
C. Some times use protection
D. Rarely if ever use protection.

5. I identify as a man and when receiving oral sex(mouth to genital) from a man I:

A. Never receive oral sex from a man.
B. Always use protection (condom)
C. Some times use protection
D. Rarely if ever use protection.

6. I identify as a man and when receiving oral sex(mouth to genital) from a woman I:

A. Never receive oral sex from a woman.
B. Always use protection (condom)
C. Some times use protection
D. Rarely if ever use protection.

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Anyone here from MA ?

Fri, 18 Mar 2005 17:28:09 GMT

Seeking to connect with like minded people in Massachusetts for safe sensual exploration

Sensual, Hindu, Vegetarian, erotic, dark naturally tanned, Uncut male in my early 40's of asian Indian origin, well educated, clean, D&D free. Physical features, size, shape or form are not important. Enjoy appreciating human forms. Into all forms of eroticism that have spiritual dimensions. Safe, Clean, D&D free

Contrast of my Dark skin against lighter skin is a great turn ON for me.

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Research on Sexual Experience and Emotion in Women

Tera — Tue, 01 Mar 2005 07:00:52 GMT

Research on Sexual Experience and Emotion in Women

-Are you a female over the age of 18 years old who has been in a monogamous relationship with either a male or female for at least 6 months?

- You are invited to participate in an anonymous on line survey concerning sexual experience and emotion. This research is being conducted by a graduate student at the California School of Professional Psychology.

- Participation will take approximately 20 minutes

- If you are interested go to

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=79238749091

password: sexuality

- For more information or questions email skycladgrrl@yahoo.com

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Hep B vaccination

JimJ — Sun, 21 Nov 2004 13:01:43 GMT

If you're lucky enough to afford it or can have your insurance cover it--mine did--I heartily recommend it. It's the only STD that you can actually be vaccinated against.

Any questions on the process, I'll gladly relate my own experience.

Be well.

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emotional safety

meldrc — Thu, 04 Nov 2004 06:06:09 GMT

are there any standard emotional safeguards to keep yourself from getting attached?

maybe 'cause i'm relatively young & female & raised really conservatively i could use some pointers...

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Safer Sex -- New Developments!

Sat, 24 Jul 2004 18:10:11 GMT

Last night I caught up on my reading on products in phase II/III trials, and dang! We have some cool stuff just around the corner! There would seem to be the possibility of folks implementing some of these solutions on their own, without waiting for the pharma companies to release their own versions, since the ideas involved are not very high tech. In fact, poor Africans are already using one of the ideas, which has been around for centuries.

The items I'm thinking of are gels designed as standalone products for use by women, but the concepts behind them could be used as backups to condoms, or possibly extended to external application or other uses.

Johns Hopkins and ReProtect LLC took a time-honored approach, and developed a product called BufferGel. This is simply an acidic gel. Sperm cells cannot survive an acidic environment, and because vaginal PH is around 4.0, their survival depends on their being delivered in an alkaline liquid. In centuries past, European women used lemon slices or juice to keep their vaginal PH low enough to prevent conception. The good news is that sperm are not the ony things to dislike a PH of 4. In vitro, it also kills (within about 2 minutes) HIV, HSV, Treponema Pallidum, and Chlamydia. In animal tests it also killed Papilloma viruses. So far this approach seems to be close to 100% effective. One scientist in Africa noticed that some women there were using lemon juice as an HIV countermeasure/contraceptive, and has encouraged widespread use of a 20% solution of lemon juice to ward off HIV. While not as easy to keep in place as a gel, it seems to be working. So, in a pinch, remember this: a mild acid will usually kill HIV, HSV and HPV. Got litmus paper?

Another product, also a gel, is called Carraguard. It is made out of carrageenan, an inexpensive extract of red seaweed which is used in a wide range of products, from cosmetics to chocolate milk. Because carrageenan will stubbornly coat things, even at a cellular level, it forms a barrier which is not penetrable by gonorrhea, HPV or HSV (in tests done on animals and humans), and may be effective in blocking Chlamydia and HIV (in vitro tests).

Other gels in testing include Acidform (another acid gel, tested against Chlamydia and HSV so far), Emmelle (made from Dextrin Sulphate, a very simple starch with a sulfur atom appended, tested as effective against HIV), and Ushercell (made from cellulose sulphate, effective in vitro against HIV, HPV, HSV, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and Haemophilus Ducreyi, effective as a contraceptive in animal tests), although these are not as far along in testing yet.

None of these products will be going to market before 2006, although it may be possible for the enterprising mad doctor to get a hold of some iota carrageenan gel, or at bare minimum a 20% solution of lemon juice. While none of these products are being tested for external application (as far as I can find), the concepts embodied in them might also provide an answer for safeguarding people from HSV and HPV infections that are outside the protection of a condom.

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My First Tribe Post...

JillysJoyBoy — Fri, 03 Dec 2004 17:55:03 GMT

And it's a deusey - well maybe not. My GF has expressed interest in being "rimmed." We have already done the wild thing anally, however while I am always interested in bringing her pleasure I don't know what to look out for or how to prepare both of us from a safety perspective. Anyone have any recommendations / ideas?

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EROS: The Center for Safe Sex now has a tribe...

nerdpunkcub — Wed, 01 Dec 2004 22:37:55 GMT

erossf.tribe.net

The play space is male, but the community events are usually all gender.

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safety of swallowing cum?

Wed, 03 Nov 2004 19:21:07 GMT

Ok. can we get a definitive anser on the safety of swallowing cum?

I hear a lot of equivocating - mostly from folks who WANT it to be 100% safe from STD. But, is it really safe?

I mean ALL kinds of STD: chlamydia and herpes as well as Hep and HIV.

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Dental Dams

blank — Wed, 20 Oct 2004 14:16:20 GMT

Hi everyone, I am new to this group and I'm asking for your feedback about dental dams. I feel like they take a lot of the fun out of cunnalingus for both partners..and hardly anyone I know uses them. They are basically unavailable except in sex toy stores... so are they even necessary? Does anyone on this tribe use them with consistency? If so, can you give some ideas about making them more fun?

Really... does anyone really use these? I am reading alot about safety but I wonder if it's all talk when it comes to big, unweildy latex barriers you have to hold in place.... or affix with really complicated straps! Also, to me, the tatse of pussy is part of the point. Can we no longer tatse pussy?

boo hoo whine bitch moan!

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another oral sex question

Tina — Tue, 14 Sep 2004 06:10:25 GMT

Recently I was involved in a threesome (no sex), and I was wondering if u can get an STD or infection if a guy goes down on you, and then another woman, and then you again? Or fingers you and then another woman, and then you again? I am paranoid as I am usually very safe with everything I do, but was not in this situation, and feel a bit scared.

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more than a condom

DeniseDenise — Sat, 17 Jul 2004 02:21:30 GMT

anyon know of a barrier that is legit, and sexy, that helps create a barrier so that you cant get herpes or warts? Condoms dont do that and it scares me. Any tips? BTW, I dont wanna wrestle with saran wrap, I'm looking for something I can buy at the store.

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poly and safe

pierceheart — Tue, 29 Jun 2004 23:41:49 GMT

Now, let me drop a dime on myself from the beginning: I have nto always practiced safe sex. And, I did not practice safe sex with my two most recent partners, in a poly relationship.

Yes, i know how wrong that was.

So, recently one partner said to me: no more sex between us if you are having unprotected sex with your other lover.

Okay.

So, in response to her email i asked her if she was using condoms, dental dams, and gloves with her two other lovers.

Should I have not asked, or, at least not in response to hehr email stating her decision?

Does it come across as an Et tu, brute'?

I hope not.

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mutant strain of syphilis detected

sobey — Fri, 09 Jul 2004 17:56:47 GMT

http://edition.cnn.com/2004/HEALTH/07/08/syphilis.resistance.ap/index.html

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FYI

Sat, 01 May 2004 14:13:20 GMT

I went to a safer sex presentation last weekend.. by a guy from our local AIDS organization. so I'll share with you a couple of things I learned...
1) regular saran wrap IS an effective barrier, microwaveable saran is NOT
2) he stressed the importance of basic body hygiene prior to sexual activity (ie - take a shower before) to prevent minor bacterial infections and reduce risk of transmitting some STDs
3) he also stressed that more invasive hygiene activities leave the body at greater risk of contracting infection. so.. avoid vaginal or anal douching, brushing or flossing your teeth at least 30 minutes prior to sexual activity.
4) the best way to prevent the spread of STDs: communication communication communication... and then, more communication...

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strange new kinda orgasm ( ok well for me it was new )

Sat, 24 Apr 2004 17:27:22 GMT

So last night I had the strangest orgasm. Normally my orgasms are so intense and well wet that my partner and I put towels down. Last night I had the complete physical sensation of an orgasm but no fluids where flowing, it was so weird I was wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this?

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YAY! For Masterbation...

Fri, 23 Apr 2004 02:42:20 GMT

But how 'safe' is it really?

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what are your....?

Fri, 23 Apr 2004 16:03:16 GMT

...favorite pleasurable erotic activities that don't involve any exchange of body fluids? (could be solo, partnered or group activities)

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